Issues / Sex & Intimacy
Come back to each other, fully.
When intimacy fades, the silence around it grows louder than the issue itself. Therapy gives you language, and a way back.
The reality
If any of this sounds familiar...
You miss being wanted.
You feel guilty for not wanting.
Sex has become a flashpoint, not a connection.
You don't know how to talk about it without it getting worse.
Why this happens
It isn't because you're broken.
Desire isn't symmetrical
Most couples have a higher- and lower-desire partner. The problem is the dance around it.
Disconnection elsewhere
What happens in the kitchen shapes what happens in the bedroom.
Shame and silence
Most of us were never given a vocabulary for any of this.
You don't have to keep doing this alone.
Book a free 15-min callHow therapy helps
What actually changes in the room.
- We talk about what's hard to talk about — gently and directly.
- You learn each other's actual desire model.
- Pressure and obligation get untangled from connection.
- Intimacy expands beyond intercourse.
Our approach
Evidence-based, relationship-centered.
Erica draws from a range of frameworks and tailors the work to what you actually need — never a one-size-fits-all protocol.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Our primary lens. EFT looks beneath the surface fight to the attachment fears underneath — and rebuilds emotional safety from the ground up.
Internal Family Systems
Each of us carries protective parts into our relationships. IFS helps you understand what you're carrying and how it shows up in moments of disconnection.
Attachment Theory
Your earliest relationships shape how you give and receive love today. Naming your attachment style helps the charged moments make sense.
Trauma-Informed Therapy
We move at the pace of your nervous system. Healing happens when it feels safe enough to feel.
Narrative Therapy
The story you tell about your relationship shapes how you live it. Together we examine the dominant narratives and write new ones.
Somatic & Nervous System Work
Conflict lives in the body. We build capacity to stay present, regulated, and connected — even when it gets hard.
Common challenges
What we help with.
What success looks like
Not better communication. Something deeper.
You touch each other again — on purpose.
Wanting and being wanted feels possible.
Sex becomes a place of meeting, not pressure.
You feel close in your body, not just your calendar.
Where we work
Serving Long Island and all of New York.
In-person sessions are held at the Garden City office. Secure telehealth is available anywhere in New York State — convenient for clients across Nassau, Suffolk, NYC, Westchester, and beyond.
- Garden City
- Nassau County
- Long Island
- Queens
- New York City
- Telehealth across NY
What clients say
Quiet, lasting change.
"Intimacy had quietly disappeared. Erica gave us a way to talk about it without it becoming a fight — and slowly, we found each other again."
"We came in barely speaking and left actually liking each other again. Erica made the conversations we'd been avoiding for years finally possible."
"After eighteen years and two kids, we'd quietly become roommates. Erica helped us remember why we chose each other — and gave us a way back."
"I used to spiral whenever my partner didn't text back. I don't anymore. I can't fully explain what shifted, but my whole nervous system feels different."
"We finally understood our pattern. I'd push, he'd pull away, we'd both feel alone. Naming it didn't fix it overnight — but it ended the loop."
"I came in for couples therapy and accidentally got my life back too. The work Erica does is the rare kind that actually lasts."
Composite quotes reflecting common themes in Erica's practice. Real identifying details are protected.
Common questions
Things people often ask.
Connection Counseling is a private-pay practice. We provide superbills you can submit for out-of-network reimbursement, and we're happy to help you understand your benefits before your first session.
Wanting each other again is possible.
A 15-minute call costs nothing and commits you to nothing. Just a conversation about where you are.