Issues / New Parents & Parenthood

Stay connected through the chaos.

Becoming parents is one of the most disorienting transitions a couple can face. Therapy helps you find each other in the middle of it.

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The reality

If any of this sounds familiar...

You're a team in logistics and strangers in love.

Resentment is creeping in around who does what.

You miss the version of you two before all of this.

You don't have the time, energy, or privacy to fix it.

Why this happens

It isn't because you're broken.

Sleep, hormones, identity

Your bodies and selves are remaking themselves at the same time as your relationship.

Invisible labor

Mental load rarely gets divided as evenly as tasks.

Loss of pre-baby self

Mourning who you were is normal — and rarely spoken about.

You don't have to keep doing this alone.

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How therapy helps

What actually changes in the room.

  • Quick, focused sessions that fit your real life (telehealth available).
  • Concrete language for who needs what.
  • Repair after the fight you had at 2am.
  • Reclaiming time to be partners, not just parents.

Our approach

Evidence-based, relationship-centered.

Erica draws from a range of frameworks and tailors the work to what you actually need — never a one-size-fits-all protocol.

Primary approach

Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)

Our primary lens. EFT looks beneath the surface fight to the attachment fears underneath — and rebuilds emotional safety from the ground up.

Also used

Internal Family Systems

Each of us carries protective parts into our relationships. IFS helps you understand what you're carrying and how it shows up in moments of disconnection.

Also used

Attachment Theory

Your earliest relationships shape how you give and receive love today. Naming your attachment style helps the charged moments make sense.

Also used

Trauma-Informed Therapy

We move at the pace of your nervous system. Healing happens when it feels safe enough to feel.

Also used

Narrative Therapy

The story you tell about your relationship shapes how you live it. Together we examine the dominant narratives and write new ones.

Also used

Somatic & Nervous System Work

Conflict lives in the body. We build capacity to stay present, regulated, and connected — even when it gets hard.

Common challenges

What we help with.

Mental load imbalancePostpartum depression/anxietyLoss of intimacyFights about division of laborIn-law boundariesCareer & identity shifts

What success looks like

Not better communication. Something deeper.

You feel like a team again.

You laugh together — actually.

You make hard decisions together without it becoming a fight.

You parent from a relationship that's full, not depleted.

Where we work

Serving Long Island and all of New York.

In-person sessions are held at the Garden City office. Secure telehealth is available anywhere in New York State — convenient for clients across Nassau, Suffolk, NYC, Westchester, and beyond.

  • Garden City
  • Nassau County
  • Long Island
  • Queens
  • New York City
  • Telehealth across NY
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What clients say

Quiet, lasting change.

"We came in barely speaking and left actually liking each other again. Erica made the conversations we'd been avoiding for years finally possible."
Couple, Garden City
"After eighteen years and two kids, we'd quietly become roommates. Erica helped us remember why we chose each other — and gave us a way back."
Married couple, Long Island
"We finally understood our pattern. I'd push, he'd pull away, we'd both feel alone. Naming it didn't fix it overnight — but it ended the loop."
Couple, Nassau County
"I came in for couples therapy and accidentally got my life back too. The work Erica does is the rare kind that actually lasts."
Individual + couple client, Garden City
"We didn't know if we wanted to stay together. Five discernment sessions later, we did — with more clarity than we'd had in years."
Couple, Long Island
"After the affair, I genuinely didn't think we'd survive it. The work was slow and honest. A year in, we are actually closer than before."
Couple, Long Island

Composite quotes reflecting common themes in Erica's practice. Real identifying details are protected.

Common questions

Things people often ask.

Connection Counseling is a private-pay practice. We provide superbills you can submit for out-of-network reimbursement, and we're happy to help you understand your benefits before your first session.

Erica, Licensed Relationship Therapist in Garden City, NY

You can be parents and still be in love.

A 15-minute call costs nothing and commits you to nothing. Just a conversation about where you are.