Issues / Dating & Relationships
Date from a place of wholeness.
If dating feels like an exhausting performance — or you keep picking people who can't meet you — therapy helps you understand the pattern and break it.
The reality
If any of this sounds familiar...
You keep ending up in the same kind of relationship.
You shrink yourself to be chosen.
You're tired of the apps but afraid of being alone.
You want love that feels safe and alive.
Why this happens
It isn't because you're broken.
Old templates
We unconsciously recreate the dynamics we know — until we make them conscious.
Attachment wounds
Anxious, avoidant, or disorganized patterns shape who feels familiar.
Self-abandonment
Performing for love costs you the self you wanted to bring.
You don't have to keep doing this alone.
Book a free 15-min callHow therapy helps
What actually changes in the room.
- We name your pattern and where it came from.
- You learn to read your own signals earlier.
- You practice choosing differently — and tolerating the discomfort of new.
- You build a relationship with yourself you can date from.
Our approach
Evidence-based, relationship-centered.
Erica draws from a range of frameworks and tailors the work to what you actually need — never a one-size-fits-all protocol.
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)
Our primary lens. EFT looks beneath the surface fight to the attachment fears underneath — and rebuilds emotional safety from the ground up.
Internal Family Systems
Each of us carries protective parts into our relationships. IFS helps you understand what you're carrying and how it shows up in moments of disconnection.
Attachment Theory
Your earliest relationships shape how you give and receive love today. Naming your attachment style helps the charged moments make sense.
Trauma-Informed Therapy
We move at the pace of your nervous system. Healing happens when it feels safe enough to feel.
Narrative Therapy
The story you tell about your relationship shapes how you live it. Together we examine the dominant narratives and write new ones.
Somatic & Nervous System Work
Conflict lives in the body. We build capacity to stay present, regulated, and connected — even when it gets hard.
Common challenges
What we help with.
What success looks like
Not better communication. Something deeper.
You stop chasing crumbs.
You feel like yourself on dates.
You walk away from what isn't right — sooner.
You attract what actually fits.
Where we work
Serving Long Island and all of New York.
In-person sessions are held at the Garden City office. Secure telehealth is available anywhere in New York State — convenient for clients across Nassau, Suffolk, NYC, Westchester, and beyond.
- Garden City
- Nassau County
- Long Island
- Queens
- New York City
- Telehealth across NY
What clients say
Quiet, lasting change.
"We came in barely speaking and left actually liking each other again. Erica made the conversations we'd been avoiding for years finally possible."
"After eighteen years and two kids, we'd quietly become roommates. Erica helped us remember why we chose each other — and gave us a way back."
"We finally understood our pattern. I'd push, he'd pull away, we'd both feel alone. Naming it didn't fix it overnight — but it ended the loop."
"I came in for couples therapy and accidentally got my life back too. The work Erica does is the rare kind that actually lasts."
"We didn't know if we wanted to stay together. Five discernment sessions later, we did — with more clarity than we'd had in years."
"After the affair, I genuinely didn't think we'd survive it. The work was slow and honest. A year in, we are actually closer than before."
Composite quotes reflecting common themes in Erica's practice. Real identifying details are protected.
Common questions
Things people often ask.
Connection Counseling is a private-pay practice. We provide superbills you can submit for out-of-network reimbursement, and we're happy to help you understand your benefits before your first session.
You deserve love that doesn't cost you yourself.
A 15-minute call costs nothing and commits you to nothing. Just a conversation about where you are.